Dear Rhonda,

I’m really “strapped” for advice here. I identify as a female and I have been dating another female for a few months. We wanted to spice up our sex life a little, so we invested in a strap-on, but I think my mom saw the box under my bed! My mom is pretty chill, so I think it could be a funny story to tell, but it might be best to just pretend it never happened. What do you think? Is it time to get real with my mom?

Sincerely,
Red Rider

 

Dear Red Rider,

If you feel comfortable talking to your mom about your sex life, do it! She might have some valuable advice for you, even if you don’t have the same experiences. Too many times, sexuality and conversations about it are ignored between close friends and family. Sex education is oftentimes not accurate in school systems, and learning from family members is often a neglected, valuable resource. You never know what you could learn by talking to a person you usually aren’t open with about your sexual experiences. Get real with your mom!




Dear Rhonda,

My girlfriend has been eyeing another girl lately. I think I’m just exaggerating the situation in my head, but then again there are some undeniable signs. They also matched on Tinder last year. I want to bring it up, but don’t really want to start a fight if there’s nothing to worry about. I know “communication is key”, but this could be a really, really messy situation I’m walking into. She is so hot. Help.

Sincerely,
Pushed Out

 

Dear Pushed Out,

If you’re insecure about another girl getting attention from your girlfriend, speak up! Your feelings are valid, and don’t think you’re exaggerating if you haven’t talked it out with your girlfriend yet. Maybe she doesn’t realize that it makes you uncomfortable. If it is a healthy relationship, your girlfriend should respect your feelings. Trust is an important part of any relationship, and if it turns out your girlfriend considers the other girl just a friend, you should respect it and let her hang out with whoever she wants. Don’t let this girl get into your head and into your relationship! Communication IS key, and if it’s a messy situation, that’s more of a reason to speak your mind.

 



Dear Rhonda,

I’m graduating this month and I’m not ready to start my adult life. I decided to stay in Athens for the summer, but now I just received an opportunity for an internship in Detroit. I want to take it, but I also want to stay in Athens and hang out with my girlfriend. Is it time to suck it up, or is it okay to take some time off from responsibilities?

Sincerely,
Stalling

 

Dear Stalling,


Anxiety when leaving your home is always tricky to work around, especially when you don’t want to leave anyone behind. The most important question you need to ask yourself is: Are you staying in Athens just for you girlfriend, or are you just not ready to leave? Don’t make life decisions based on another person; stick to your guts. If this is a dream internship in Detroit, try it out! Your girlfriend should be understanding if you need to take this chance. Graduation is a stressful time, and you may need to take some time to self-reflect. If you need to take a break from stress, hangout in Athens for the summer, and look for internships later in the year! There is no shame in taking a break. Just don’t make this decision based on anyone but yourself.