I identify as a female and I have had a crush on another female for quite some time. There is definitely a connection, but I have only ever been with males. I am scared and do not know what to say or do. Is this just a crush or something I should pursue?
Dear Curious Cowgirl,
You need to be open and honest about your feelings. Even if it is just a crush, you will always wonder “what if” if you don’t pursue it. Exploring your sexuality can be a confusing time. Talk to people you feel comfortable and safe with about these emotions! You aren’t alone in the discovery of your true self. But keep in mind, the longer you wait to talk to your love interest, the more anxious you may feel! Share your thoughts and feelings with her. Explain where you’re coming from, and the connection you feel to her. College is a time where you can explore your sexuality more freely than ever before. Be honest with yourself and her!
I’m at a point where I’ve been questioning my sexuality a lot but there is just no way i can get myself to go to the lgbtq+ center. I’m just so nervous/scared that people would see me going that way or see me coming out and instantly judge me. & what if it’s someone i know! what can i do?
Ques Tion Ing
Dear Ques Tion Ing,
The LGBTQ+ center is not a place you should be ashamed of going. If anyone judges you for seeking guidance or getting informed (they have a great library of LGBTQ+ literature) then they aren’t worth your time and energy!
If the LGBTQ+ center is not the place you feel comfortable, though, there are many other options for meeting new people who will support & help you in your growth.
Designated Space is every Tuesday at 9 p.m. in Donkey Coffee. You can share a poem, story, thought and meet others that can be open and vulnerable with you. If writing isn’t your forté and you just want to meet someone new, Vegan Cooking Workshop is at United Campus Ministries every Tuesday at 7 p.m. It’s an easy way to meet awesome new people and make a delicious meal in a comfortable space.
While the LGBT center is an awesome resource, you don’t need to go there if you don’t feel comfortable. A lot of self discovery can happen when you open yourself up to creative outlets: cooking, writing, singing, etc. Talk to your friends and maybe invite them to come along with you so you feel even more comfortable. Perhaps you can open them up to new, creative places as well!